In Becoming the Most Interesting Man, I wrote about the three ways for winning vested interest connections [these are people that will actively help you in your career].  Today, I want to focus on the 3rd method: making someone think.

Have you ever had a conversation about the weather?  Or have you ever started a conversation with, “Have you been here before?”  Well, if you have, I’ve got some advice for you:

STRIKE THESE TIRED, WORN-OUT TOPICS FROM YOUR MENTAL DATABASE –  IMMEDIATELY.

Why?  Because they waste your breath.  They waste your time.  And most importantly, they are boring.  Boring is the death knell to the people you want to meet – the people that can make an impact on your career and your life.  Boring is like a poisonous gas that – once released into a conversation – destroys any chance of building a positive, lasting relationship.

You see, to get someone to find you interesting – interesting enough to want to help you – you must create compelling conversations.  You must be unique.   You must inspire thought.

HOW?

There is one place.  There is one supreme source of compelling content.  Content so fascinating that leaders across the world – from all disciplines and backgrounds – attend just to be a part of the conversation.  That place is called TED.

If you want to create compelling conversations yourself – conversations that can fundamentally alter the direction of your relationships – all you have to do is watch the videos.  Then share the ideas.  Spread the ideas like confetti at a parade.  And witness how easy it is to create successful, lasting relationships.

BONUS: I’ve got a special bonus for you. Here is a database of every TED talk that has ever been recorded.  Watch them.  Understand them.  Then share them with your world.  It’s the world’s best shortcut to becoming interesting. Just click here.